Therapy for Couples

Many couples find that over time they are getting stuck in patterns and cycles that aren't working for them. Perhaps there's a feeling of not being appreciated or understood. Maybe there's some resentment about things that happened in the past that have not been resolved. Or simply, the way that each partner shows up in a conflict ends up making things worse for the other, until small things seem to spiral into large disagreements.

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Even in the most loving relationships, these patterns can cause a strain. Often, they are rooted in difficulties in understanding the ways that historical sensitivities are triggered and played out in current-day conflicts. What can feel like a surface-level disagreement may be reactivating deep feelings of fear of rejection, of not being enough, of being flawed in some way. And without attending to those deep feelings with tenderness and love, partners are left mystified by one another's reactions, and potentially find themselves pulled even farther apart.

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Through therapy, we can create the space to understand what's coming up for each partner and to get to the root of those issues. We can work on communication skills that will help you see and hear each other more clearly again. And we can cultivate patterns that will support your vision for what your relationship can be. 

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If you're interested in exploring couples therapy together, please reach out to schedule a free 20 minute phone consultation to see if I feel like a good fit.